(Continuation from yesterday)

Ebata: "I think this 'unrequited love' has far more power than ordinary love'."

Daughter: "What do you mean?"

Ebata: "Even if you don't see it, you can sense it just by approaching it. By discomfort."

Daughter: "It's true, I get urticaria just from their presence.

Ebata: "In my case, I can only detect that they have 'arrived on the same floor'."

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Ebata: "In my case, once I've decided that I hate them, there's no way I'm going to change my mind later. How about you."

Wife: "I agree it. I think that it is a rare case of disappearing the the feeling.

Ebata: "Therefore, I think it's quite important to live a life in which you don't create 'hate' as much as possible. Besides, it is quite difficult.

Wife: "But 'hate' is inevitable in the working world."

Ebata: "In my case, when I was young, I was angry at someone all the time, I think. Especially my boss."

Wife: "So do I."

Ebata: "But lately, the number of these 'hate' seems to be decreasing -- so I'm worried."

Wife: "Why?"

Ebata: "This is just a hypothesis, but I think the total amount of 'hate' in life is constant.

Wife: "And?"

Ebata: "If I can't feel 'hate' anymore, then I think I am now "being hated by others" phase in earnest.

Wife: "?"

Ebata: "In other words, the people who are 'hated' are hopelessly 'unaware' of it."

Excerpt from "A Message to Young Engineers: "Integrity" as a Strategy for Surviving the First Five Years of Employment

- Being lectured by a newcomer is "the best entertainment" for an older person.

- After all, in the hierarchy of society, newcomers and young people are in a weaker position as members of society, and old persons can unilaterally express their opinions from a superior perspective. How could I, an older person, miss such a delightful event?

This kind of situation is often invoked at "drinking parties" and the like.

In particular, a boss who wants to talk about the hardships of his or her youth is the worst of the worst.

However, this "worst of the worst" is difficult to self-identify. The higher the position, the more difficult it becomes.

Since no one can stop them, they will continue to self-amplify the ridiculous misperception that they are saying "good things".

Thus, the boss is completed as the 'being hated' one.

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I've been sober for almost three years now, and...

The above is an objective report from a sober, post-sobriety person who has been observing the "unseemliness of the boss" at drinking parties.

Incidentally, I've seen people, regardless of whether they were my boss or not, turn into horrible 'jerks' just by drinking -- there were some truly spine-chilling moments.

Therefore, the best choice is to "not attend" drinking parties.

However, this is not possible in the working world.

The best way for a boss to behave at a drinking party is to not talk, shut up, and only pay.