When I was a teenager, there was a song with the phase of "though I don't want to understand my behavior, am I so wrong?”
This song had become very popular in Japanese teenagers, but I couldn't empathize with this song at all.
For me, I preferred to think that "though I don't want to understand your behavior, am I so wrong?"
Though I didn't remember that I had attached you at all, why did you bother me so hard? Why I have to be in a class room with broken windows? Why I have to attend a loudly class?
I could understand why they came to a school you didn't want to go. They have no duty to attend a class (except for their parents).
Even if they want to destroy the present education system of Japan, I might have understood their actions. (I could have helped them)
When I was a junior high school student, there was school violence as a society problem.
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When I was an even junior high school student, I didn't believe the human relationship among persons at all.
I thought "Mutual-understanding without communication" was just an illusion absolutely.
In order to understand the thought of the third person, I thought that I have to make great efforts by writing, reading, speaking, discussing, and any other methods at that time.
Of course, trying the above actions were so painful for me, so I could reach the concept "it is natural NOT to understand something with each other".(I was a cynical boy wasn't I?).
So, to the singer who said "though I don't want to understand my behavior, am I so wrong ?", and I want to say,
"Yes. You are wrong absolutely."
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Of course, even if we do writing, reading, speaking, discussing, and any other methods, something is not going well in many cases.
The above is a common sense for adults.
It is very difficult to understand among adults. More other, obviously, it is impossible to understand between teenagers and adults.
In conclusion, I am afraid that we should start to make a relationship form the bottom of mutual mistrust.
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Why I wrote the above contents today,
I think that this paradigm shift makes you easier for teenagers who are worried about human relationships.